3 Bible Verses for Single Men

Many single men long for a partner who will hopefully become a spouse. However, it’s not always easy to know how to begin that particular journey. As with most things, though, the Bible has advice for us. Redlands Christian Counseling can help guide you in navigating relationships and finding a path that aligns with your values and goals.

Counting the cost

Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it? – Luke 14:28 NIV

Jesus tried to reach His audience where they were. When addressing the followers about making long-term commitments, such as becoming a disciple, He urged them to begin by calculating the cost of the entire endeavor.

This same wisdom could be applied to someone seeking a long-term romantic relationship. Marriage should be a costly undertaking – you should seek to give as much of yourself to your spouse as possible. At the very least, it is a venture you shouldn’t take lightly. Jesus would urge us all to use our brains as well as our hearts and to commit wholeheartedly to whatever we decide to do.

First things first for single men

But seek first his kingdom and righteousness, and these things will be given to you as well. – Matthew 6:33, NIV

God made us to connect and desire connection. At our core, we are made for community and relationships. Just as our bodies need food to function, so do our souls need connection to be healthy and happy. Desiring a romantic relationship is built into who we are as people, and God delights in seeing us healthy and happy.

Ultimately, though, we will never be truly healthy if we do not have our lives prioritized. The primary connection and relationship we should seek first is with Jesus. When we start from there, Jesus says that He will add all these things to us. It should be noted that in the context of this verse “all these things” refers to ordinary needs like food and clothing. His point is that our connection to God must come before even the most basic of needs.

Be on the lookout

Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. – Matthew 7:7, NIV

Many men who have been single for a long time begin to lose confidence and hope of ever being able to attract a partner. Sometimes we have to risk things. Alcoholics Anonymous has a saying that goes, “Nothing changes if nothing changes.” Jesus tells us that, if we truly want something, we have to take physical action to get it. This could mean simply giving up our time and comfort to find that special connection.

Support in the journey for single men

Knowing what we want is the beginning of finding long-term romantic love. Jesus has helped us know where to start. Focusing on our relationship with Him first, and then being willing to physically look for the connection with others is often what is required.

Sometimes all of that is easier said than done. We might still need help to achieve our goals or work past trauma. That is where we can help. If you find yourself needing that bit of extra help, reach out to us at Redlands Christian Counseling today and we can connect you with a counselor in Redlands who will walk that journey with you. Ask, seek, and find help today.